Anger is perhaps the worst emotions which need to be addressed. From time to time we have all experienced these strong feelings. Some common causes of anger include frustration, hurt, annoyance, disappointment, harassment, and threats. This helps us to realize that anger can be friend or enemy can be, depending on how we express it. Knowing how to recognize and express anger appropriately, can help us to achieve these goals, and overcome the appearance-appearance, solve problems and even protect our health.
However, failure to recognize and understand our anger, lead to various problems.
Some experts (psychologists) believe that repressed anger is the underlying cause of anxiety and depression. Which is unexpressed anger can disrupt relationships, affect thinking and behavior patterns, as well as various physical problems, such as high blood pressure, heart problems, headaches, skin disorders and other problems are interlinked. What's even worse is the relationship between the dangerous anger that is not controlled by crime, emotional and physical abuse and other violent behaviors. Redford Williams, an expert in internal medicine (internist) and specialists about the behavior (behavioral specialist) at Duke University Medical Center, the United States has developed a 12-step program that can help people to learn to cope with the emotions of anger.
Williams advised to monitor your thinking that tends to maintain or preserve cynical because of "a hunk of hostilities". This will teach you about the frequency and types of situations that provoke you. Seek support from important people in your life to cope with your feelings and change your behavior patterns.
By maintaining "a hunk of a sense of hostility", you may be aware of when and where you have aggressive thoughts, so when you find yourself in a situation like this, you can use techniques such as:
1. Take a deep breath and blow slowly
2. Dhikr by calling the names of Allah Beautiful
3. Stop thinking about things that make your heart becomes hot. This can help you stop the cycle of your anger.
4. Put yourself in the "shoes" of others. Empathy may be adding a different perspective. 5. Keep in mind, that we are all human beings, who can make mistakes.
6. Learn how to laugh at yourself and menemukn humor in various situations.
7. Also learn how to be relaxed or relaxed.
8. Although you may have heard that it is better to express anger rather than internalize it, but remember that the anger that often acted often at odds with the expected results and can make us ostracized by many people.
9. Another important thing is that you need to practice the "trust in others." It is normal if we are more irritable than believed, but by learning how to trust others, you will be able to reduce your anger directly to them.
10. Skills 'listen well' will improve communication and to facilitate a sense of trust among the people. This trust can assist you in dealing with the emotions of hostility to potential reduce it even possible to get rid of.
11. Learn also how you assert yourself. This is a constructive option. When you find yourself angry at someone, try to explain to them what is bothering you about their behavior and why you should be angry with them.
You need the words and work more to be assertive rather than have to show your anger, but the reward will you get to be balanced. If we realize all this, then we will feel that life is too short, if we just always angry at everything.
12. The last step requires an apology to the people you have upset him. By letting go of hatred and release purposes remuneration or compensation, you will feel the heavy burden of anger has been lifted from your shoulders.
Joan Lunden, caregiver health rubric magazine Healthy Living Magazine said "Holding on to anger, resentment and hurt only Gives You tense muscles, a headache and a late jaw from clenching your teeth. Forgiveness Gives You Back the Laughter and the lightness in your life. "-
Hold the anger (you), resentment and hurt you, that makes your muscles tense, headaches and jaw are tense because your teeth chattering. Granting pardon to bring back the laughter and enlightenment in your life.
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